How to Be There for Troubled Teenagers

Parenting is not an easy job especially when dealing with troubled teens.  During the teenage years, children tend to be rebellious, cause all sorts of problems and may be very hard to deal with.  The reasons for the unwanted emotional and behavioral problems may be caused by several factors.  It is up to you as a parent to help your teen by being there for him during these hard and challenging adolescent years.

As a parent you should never give up when the situation becomes harder.  It is important to always be by your teenager’s side to help him manage this hard time.  There are several ways you can ensure that you are there for your teen.

Open Lines of Communication

As with any relationship, communication is key.  It is important to open all lines of communication and let your difficult teen know that you are always there for him and that you are always ready to listen to what he has to say.  To communicate effectively, it is important for you to learn new ways of communicating with your teen that encourage openness.

 As parents we sometimes tend focus on the verbal part of communication.  In order to improve your relationship with you teen, turn your attention to listening to him.  It may be a difficult proposition, but connecting with your by listening intently is a major advantage for you.

Focus on the Positive

It is important to be positive.  Despite the constant urge to point out the mistakes that your teen is making, focusing on the positive is beneficial.  Positive reinforcement will encourage your teenager try and do more positive things as a way of seeking attention.  Troubled teenagers like attention and will pursue it in all ways even if it means doing something good.

While the natural urge might be to lecture and scold, do your best to also acknowledge and praise.  Maintain a healthy balance between recognition and reprimand.

Communicating Your Love

Troubled teens need validation that they are loved.  The primary source of love should come from you.  There are many different ways to communicate your love to your teen.  The simplest way is to just tell him that you love him.  You can also write him a short poem or a letter.  This is an effective way to communicate love when you find it difficult to express verbally.  Also, try spending time with him by taking walks, going to an amusement park, or seeing a cool movie.

Recall for a moment their infancy and the way you cuddled and spoke with him.  Look at him with those same eyes and begin to express your feelings.  You are sure to see a reaction.

Adolescence is a difficult time for children but it is a necessary part of becoming an adult.  If your teen seems to be troubled or having a difficult time, ensure that you maintain the open lines of communication, remain positive and always communicate your love.  By doing so, you will help him move through this challenging phase with meaningful support.

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