Do Long Conversations Help Difficult Teenagers

Conversations with Difficult TeenagersTeens are going through plenty of change as they prepare for adulthood.  It is during this period in their lives where they tend to become difficult. This is mainly because they are trying to discover who they are and their place in society.

One of the major problems that arise between parents and their teenage children is usually poor communication.  Often times, it is the breakdown in communication which leads parents to believe that their children are difficult teenagers.  This breakdown sometimes comes from a result of lengthy overdone conversations that lose their effect.  According to psychologists, a breakdown in communication, a lack of empathy and increasing power struggle in the home are major contributors to creating troubled teens.

Getting C.L.E.A.R. with a Troubled Teen

Many problems can be solved through positive and effective communication.  Parents should understand that their teenage kids are no longer young children have an identity as pre-adults who need to be treated as such.  Parenting advisers suggest as a way to create this positive communication is to be C.L.E.A.R. (Connect, Listen, Empathy, Acknowledge and Request).


Teenagers do not need long conversations in order for any messages to get across.  Rather, listening to their grievances and connecting with them is important.  Talking to troubled teens on a regular basis makes it easier to live together and hold conversations at home.

Listen with Empathy

Listening to teens with an open mind rather than with the mind already made up will enable any teenager appreciate the gesture.  By identifying their feelings and expressing an interest in their issues will enable them open up a whole lot more so that difficult teenagers no longer see the need to fight with the parent but rather get into discussions and talks with them, especially when there are serious issues to be discussed.

Keeping it Short

Rather than hold lengthy conversations and discussions with teens, it is much better to hold short, brief sessions of talks and discussions.  This way, the teens will be able to take in the content of the discussion and inwardly digest it so they may apply in their lives.  Long discussions tend to be boring and are mostly monologues.  Their effects on teens are limited and will tend to put them off.

Showing empathy to the challenges and situations they are facing is very important.  In order to get positive messages across, it is important to acknowledge the issues teens are facing and concerns they have.  When requesting teens to do chores, parents need to request rather than demand. Applying these simple but effective solutions will enable parents communicate better and be able to deal with difficult teenagers.

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