Difficult Teen AttitudeParenting difficult teenagers who display a bad attitude can be a challenge.  From the day of birth to their 18th birthday there will be a constant power struggle between you and your child.  Although this can prove to be a difficult and trying time for a wide variety of parents, being equipped with the following five tips your teenager’s attitude can drastically improve your knowledge of how to parent teenagers.

Whether you have a teenager daughter or a teenage son you will undoubtedly be able to benefit from these tips and improve your overall relationship with your child.  If you are a parent who is looking to regain a sense of balance in your family unit, it starts with understanding how to create structure and create discipline in your your teenager.

Parenting difficult teenagers who display “attitude” is a struggle that many adults go through throughout their lives but it becomes easier as per the five tips below.

Determine Severity

This first step is dependent on the understanding of the parent.  There are a variety of different types of rebellion that range from talking back to engaging in sexual events or indulging in drugs and alcohol.  As a parent you are to determine what type of rebellion your child is involved in and determine the seriousness of the situation.  Once you have determined the severity of the incidents, you can then begin to make a valid assessment to whether your child simply needs a simple attitude adjustment and in depth “intervention”.

Identify the Source

With the majority of teenagers that tend to act out there is generally an underlying cause that is influencing them to act unlike themselves.  You can speak with your teenager to determine what the causing factor for their problems is in order to find an efficient method to adjusting their attitude.  The more information that you are able to receive, the easier it will be to find the keys to resolve the underlying trouble.  Without the appropriate investigative knowledge the underlying cause will remain within your teenager and potentially become worse as time goes on.

Induce Role Reversal

Many parents have experienced success with this particular method of parenting – role reversal.  With role reversal you will essentially be performing an interruption in your difficult teenagers pattern.  This particular method has proven to work extremely well for individuals who find that parenting difficult teenagers is far too stressful.  With role reversal you will essentially be changing the amount of power between you and your teen.  This will show them a new perspective on the situation and help them to understand the emotions that you feel.  This oftentimes prompts a source of self realization that helps decrease their amount of similar outbreaks.

Define the Behavior/Consequence Connection

It is essential for parents to teach their children the direct consequences to their actions.  With the ability to teach them consequences, their behavior will begin to change in a more positive fashion.  Consequence/behavior will teach them how to understand situations in a more logical manner.  The more that you provide them with honest reasons, the more accepting they will deter from inappropriate future behavior.

Avoid Assumptions

One of the most critical mistakes that parents make when dealing with their troubled teens is that they assume that they understand.  Although your teen’s problem may seem trivial to you, it is inevitably a big deal to them and so being compassionate and understanding may help to strengthen your relationship.  Although you will want to maintain a position of influence, associating yourself with your teen will help them to see you as a supportive parent which will encourage change in behavior in the future.

Parenting difficult teenagers with attitudes is a process that takes time and should be taken seriously.  The steps above will assist you in better connecting and providing direction to a more health attitude adjustment.

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Presidental Campaign Lessons on Parenting Troubled TeensThe current series of presidential debates have not only captured the attention of tens of millions of Americans, they also have shed an important light on how responsible people deal with each other when they have disagreements – including parents of difficult teenagers.  While some may argue that the presidential etiquette has eroded, the truth is that when compared to many of the confrontations parents have with their troubled teens,these debates seem quite tame indeed.

Parenting difficult teenagers is a challenge unto itself, but many parents exacerbate the problem when confronting their troubled teens by letting their emotions get the better of them.  What follows are a few lessons that the presidential debates demonstrate that parents of troubled teens can use to help avoid a needless confrontation that leads to disastrous results.

Be Clear

You may have watched the debates and observed that their answers or unclear and do not answer the questions asked.  The points each candidate may have actually made you more confused about the subject and your opinion of them dropped.

Don’t make this mistake with your teen.  Parenting difficult teenagers is not easy task, but it greatly helps when you are clear and consistent when talking to them.  Setting rules and explaining your actions should be simple and straightforward.  You can add clarity by asking your teen if they have any questions about what your discussion and always ask what was understood.  Remember when speaking to your troubled teens, be clear, direct and to the point.  You may also want to consider how your nonverbal behavior communicates just as much as your words – after all, actions do speak louder than words.

Always Tell the Truth

You may have also noticed after the presidential debates that the next morning the media runs “fact checks” to verify the statements of each candidate.  Those candidates that don’t tell the truth are often penalized negatively by the press for making up stories or outright lying.

Lying to your children, especially to troubled teens is never a good thing.  You should always strive to tell the truth because it is the foundation of trust.  Plus, it’s pretty difficult to keep a lie straight over time.  Once the story inevitably changes your children know that you lied to them.  Telling the truth helps keep you consistent with your troubled teens.

It’s Okay to Agree to Disagree

During the debates when the presidential candidates reach an impasse, you have seen them agree to disagree.  This is a way to both acknowledge the position of the other candidate and to end the discussion without breaking into an argument.

Agreeing to disagree can help you when parenting difficult teenagers as well.  Understanding you are going to see some things differently.  By acknowledging that you see things differently by agreeing to disagree, you show your teen respect for their point of view without caving or giving in to yours.  In addition, it can short circuit a bigger argument from happening.

As you can see, the presidential debates serve as a strong reminder about how people can get along even with widely opposing viewpoints.  Applying this knowledge to your parenting can help you calm things down with your troubled teen.

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