Difficult Teen AttitudeParenting difficult teenagers who display a bad attitude can be a challenge.  From the day of birth to their 18th birthday there will be a constant power struggle between you and your child.  Although this can prove to be a difficult and trying time for a wide variety of parents, being equipped with the following five tips your teenager’s attitude can drastically improve your knowledge of how to parent teenagers.

Whether you have a teenager daughter or a teenage son you will undoubtedly be able to benefit from these tips and improve your overall relationship with your child.  If you are a parent who is looking to regain a sense of balance in your family unit, it starts with understanding how to create structure and create discipline in your your teenager.

Parenting difficult teenagers who display “attitude” is a struggle that many adults go through throughout their lives but it becomes easier as per the five tips below.

Determine Severity

This first step is dependent on the understanding of the parent.  There are a variety of different types of rebellion that range from talking back to engaging in sexual events or indulging in drugs and alcohol.  As a parent you are to determine what type of rebellion your child is involved in and determine the seriousness of the situation.  Once you have determined the severity of the incidents, you can then begin to make a valid assessment to whether your child simply needs a simple attitude adjustment and in depth “intervention”.

Identify the Source

With the majority of teenagers that tend to act out there is generally an underlying cause that is influencing them to act unlike themselves.  You can speak with your teenager to determine what the causing factor for their problems is in order to find an efficient method to adjusting their attitude.  The more information that you are able to receive, the easier it will be to find the keys to resolve the underlying trouble.  Without the appropriate investigative knowledge the underlying cause will remain within your teenager and potentially become worse as time goes on.

Induce Role Reversal

Many parents have experienced success with this particular method of parenting – role reversal.  With role reversal you will essentially be performing an interruption in your difficult teenagers pattern.  This particular method has proven to work extremely well for individuals who find that parenting difficult teenagers is far too stressful.  With role reversal you will essentially be changing the amount of power between you and your teen.  This will show them a new perspective on the situation and help them to understand the emotions that you feel.  This oftentimes prompts a source of self realization that helps decrease their amount of similar outbreaks.

Define the Behavior/Consequence Connection

It is essential for parents to teach their children the direct consequences to their actions.  With the ability to teach them consequences, their behavior will begin to change in a more positive fashion.  Consequence/behavior will teach them how to understand situations in a more logical manner.  The more that you provide them with honest reasons, the more accepting they will deter from inappropriate future behavior.

Avoid Assumptions

One of the most critical mistakes that parents make when dealing with their troubled teens is that they assume that they understand.  Although your teen’s problem may seem trivial to you, it is inevitably a big deal to them and so being compassionate and understanding may help to strengthen your relationship.  Although you will want to maintain a position of influence, associating yourself with your teen will help them to see you as a supportive parent which will encourage change in behavior in the future.

Parenting difficult teenagers with attitudes is a process that takes time and should be taken seriously.  The steps above will assist you in better connecting and providing direction to a more health attitude adjustment.


Parenting is not an easy job especially when dealing with troubled teens.  During the teenage years, children tend to be rebellious, cause all sorts of problems and may be very hard to deal with.  The reasons for the unwanted emotional and behavioral problems may be caused by several factors.  It is up to you as a parent to help your teen by being there for him during these hard and challenging adolescent years.

As a parent you should never give up when the situation becomes harder.  It is important to always be by your teenager’s side to help him manage this hard time.  There are several ways you can ensure that you are there for your teen.

Open Lines of Communication

As with any relationship, communication is key.  It is important to open all lines of communication and let your difficult teen know that you are always there for him and that you are always ready to listen to what he has to say.  To communicate effectively, it is important for you to learn new ways of communicating with your teen that encourage openness.

 As parents we sometimes tend focus on the verbal part of communication.  In order to improve your relationship with you teen, turn your attention to listening to him.  It may be a difficult proposition, but connecting with your by listening intently is a major advantage for you.

Focus on the Positive

It is important to be positive.  Despite the constant urge to point out the mistakes that your teen is making, focusing on the positive is beneficial.  Positive reinforcement will encourage your teenager try and do more positive things as a way of seeking attention.  Troubled teenagers like attention and will pursue it in all ways even if it means doing something good.

While the natural urge might be to lecture and scold, do your best to also acknowledge and praise.  Maintain a healthy balance between recognition and reprimand.

Communicating Your Love

Troubled teens need validation that they are loved.  The primary source of love should come from you.  There are many different ways to communicate your love to your teen.  The simplest way is to just tell him that you love him.  You can also write him a short poem or a letter.  This is an effective way to communicate love when you find it difficult to express verbally.  Also, try spending time with him by taking walks, going to an amusement park, or seeing a cool movie.

Recall for a moment their infancy and the way you cuddled and spoke with him.  Look at him with those same eyes and begin to express your feelings.  You are sure to see a reaction.

Adolescence is a difficult time for children but it is a necessary part of becoming an adult.  If your teen seems to be troubled or having a difficult time, ensure that you maintain the open lines of communication, remain positive and always communicate your love.  By doing so, you will help him move through this challenging phase with meaningful support.


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